Saturday, October 31, 2009


Hello Hello!

So, I have decided on an occupation (more of a career than JUST a job) that I am very excited about! The words I would use to describe my emotions are: nervous, excited, unsure, happy, and ecstatic! The job that I have now kept you wondering about for the last 3 seconds is .... PERSONAL TRAINING!
I decided that I wanted to work in the health industry, but I was unsure as how to even get into it without a "Bachelor's Degree" because all I have right now is my Associate of Science, and my degree was health oriented. And people in Canada are like, "What's the devil is an associates degree?" and then I'm all crushed because they have no clue that it is actually WORTH something. So, I have been disappointed interview after interview because my education means nothing to them. But NO LONGER! I will now not only have my associate of Science, BUT, I will be certified in CPR & First Aid, AND dun dah duh DA!!! I will have my personal training certification completed! HOORAY!

I am super excited. I am actually taking the course right now online and am making sure that I am taking a program that both the states and Canada will recognize as a substantial course. It's great too because I have so many different kinds of dance in my background along with athletic training so I will be able to incorporate a variety of tactics along with relating to and making a specialized program for each individual client. That makes me happy.

So...that is my update I suppose on what I have been doing, and that is studying.

The next "Training" thing I guess I wanted to address is a different kind of training. This training is of the spiritual kind. First off if you haven't heard or read it yet, Elder Oaks spoke at a BYU-I devotional in early Oct. about Religious Freedom being under attack and it was very good and many who oppose the church were outraged by it. So, if you haven't gotten a chance to read that yet then go to and looks under past devotionals. If you have the time.

Anyways, Recently I just felt like it would be wise to re-read elder Bednar's talk, "And Nothing Shall Offend Them". ( search engine on side, type; Bednar nothing shall offend).
The following quotes are excerpts that were my favorite parts, but the entire talk itself is worth the 15min. (or less) of your time that it will take to read it.

"When we believe or say we have been offended, we usually mean we feel insulted, mistreated, snubbed, or disrespected. And certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean-spirited things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us to take offense. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended us is fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else.

In the grand division of all of God’s creations, there are things to act and things to be acted upon (see 2 Nephi 2:13–14). As sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father, we have been blessed with the gift of moral agency, the capacity for independent action and choice. Endowed with agency, you and I are agents, and we primarily are to act and not just be acted upon. To believe that someone or something can make us feel offended, angry, hurt, or bitter diminishes our moral agency and transforms us into objects to be acted upon. As agents, however, you and I have the power to act and to choose how we will respond to an offensive or hurtful situation.

Please note the use of the active word perfecting. As described by Elder Neal A. Maxwell, the Church is not “a well-provisioned rest home for the already perfected” (“A Brother Offended,” Ensign, May 1982, 38). Rather, the Church is a learning laboratory and a workshop in which we gain experience as we practice on each other in the ongoing process of “perfecting the Saints.”

Understanding that the Church is a learning laboratory helps us to prepare for an inevitable reality. In some way and at some time, someone in this Church will do or say something that could be considered offensive. Such an event will surely happen to each and every one of us—and it certainly will occur more than once. Though people may not intend to injure or offend us, they nonetheless can be inconsiderate and tactless.

You and I cannot control the intentions or behavior of other people. However, we do determine how we will act. Please remember that you and I are agents endowed with moral agency, and we can choose not to be offended.
I witness the reality and divinity of a living Savior and of His power to help us avoid and overcome offense."

I Really enjoyed his talk and I hope, that if all you did was read my posted excerpts, that you will have enjoyed them as well. They are something the each of us need to be reminded of on a continual basis. And that we need to TRAIN OURSELVES to be un-offended.

Love Always,
Mrs. Fray Fray

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Say YES to the Dress!!!

One New show that I really enjoy is TLC's "Say Yes to the Dress"! For some reason I just love looking at wedding gowns. They are the epitome of elegance and womanhood to me. I don't know why, but they are. One designer that I have started to fall in love with because of the show is Pnina Tornai : Many in her line have a lingerie' look (see through) So many of the Brides that purchase the dresses have them altered so that you cant see through them and they look FABULOUS! I really love her line. Another Designer I love now is Eve of Milady: The next dresses are by Melissa Sweet:I also Enjoy Kenneth Pool's Line:The last dress is from the 2008 line of Lazaro, and this is actually THE dress that I would have purchased for my wedding had I had tons of money (and sleeve alterations). Of course, I say this now, but had I actually tried it on I may have said otherwise. I must admit, I did LOVE my dress that I wore my wedding day. :)

This is All for now, I just love wedding dresses! I would buy LOTS if I was a millionaire!

Love Always,
Mrs. Fray Fray

Friday, October 9, 2009


Now that it has snowed, and the temperature continues to drop each morning, I am getting less and less work at D'Arcy. I have been searching for the past few days for job positions available, but there certainly are not as many listing for jobs now, as compared to what there was this time last year! One word. Recession. Which equals, Destruction...on me.

And one bad thing about me trying to get anything RETAIL this year is that I HAVE to be upfront and honest with potential employers about me being gone during blackout days! And Dec. 26th here is Canada, is like Black Friday in the States. You CANNOT NOT be at work? You HAVE to be available during that time to work, and normally, it would be NO problem. But to my dismay, this year, Whitney is getting married in California! And DURING the Blackout season for retail stores! Oh Whitney...It's OK, I don't blame you, I blame your fiance' ha ha J/K. I fear that I will not be able to obtain ANY job until after The new year! which is TOO long for me to be out of work! That's TWO months with no work! And that is unacceptable to me. So, as the saying goes...Beggars Can't be Choosers. And I think for me that means. If I still have to work outside in the cold, or flip burgers, then I guess that's what I'm gonna have to do till the New year rings in. But hopefully I will not be doomed to doing that kind of work once again. I hope I can be blessed with a GOOD, FUN, and ENJOYABLE work environment.
I probably just sound a tad negative today because I'm stressed. This too shall pass.

Love Always,
Mrs. Fray Fray